Mental strength is a quality that gives kids resilience. Resilience is a quality which will allow your kids to accept setbacks and disappointments in their stride without doubting themselves and losing confidence. Mental strength is a quality which will carry them far in their lives and parents can play an important role in helping them develop this quality. Amy Morin gives us a list of 13 things not to do as a parent to foster this quality in our kids. What really struck me about this article was how many of these mistakes I am actually guilty of in raising my own children. This is a fascinating new way to look at parenting and I'm very happy I found it. Here's another article you should read once you've read the excerpts.
Giving in to guilty feelings teaches your child that guilt is intolerable. Kids who learn this won't be able to say no to someone who says, "be a friend and let me copy your paper," or, "if you loved me, you'd do this for me."
The greatest thing I got out of this piece is how much solid common sense there is. You will find yourself nodding as you recognize feelings and situations we all live through as parents. Amy makes sense of it all and provides solid and compassionate advice that just makes sense. Every parent should read this. Here's a second excerpt to tempt you..
Letting kids dictate what the family will eat for dinner or where the family goes on vacation gives kids more power than they are developmentally ready to handle. Treating kids like an equal, or the boss, actually robs them of mental strength. Instead you should increase your kids coping skills. (affiliate link)
Give your kids an opportunity to practice taking orders, listening to things they don't want to hear, and doing things they don't want to do. Let your kids make simple choices while maintaining a clear family hierarchy. You can read the original article using the button below or grab Amy Morins book and read everything. Its a real eye opener and quite delightful. (affiliate link)
Strong relationships are core to family stability. You can read the rest of the Amy Morin article by clicking the button below. Also check out 10 rules for raising mentally strong kids and how to help your kids find a career they love. Thanks for visiting!